Have you ever been sitting at home on a Friday night, ready for a nice evening of Talenti gelato and back-to-back episodes of HIMYM on Netflix and then made the mistake of checking Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn (for good measure), only to soon be left with a feeling of inadequacy and loneliness at the sight of everyone having fun in the world while you’re at home? These feelings, otherwise known as FOMO or the Fear Of Missing Out, are a result of choosing not to participate and then regretting it almost immediately. They are intrusive and can strike at any minute leaving you stranded on top of your kitchen table screaming for your roommate to come save your life. This is actually a direct account of what happens to me when I spot a roach in the house, but FOMO, like roaches, can be exterminated with a little hefty dose of Raid GOMO, or Getting Out More Often.
Getting Out More Often is simple. Unlike FOMO, GOMO is placing you in the middle of the action and encouraging you to seize life’s experiences, focusing on spending money on experiences rather than material items. I, for one, am pro-GOMO. I would much rather spend $1000 on a plane ticket to Ireland than the latest Macbook. For me, getting out of the house and into the world is a crucial part of my life. Sure, there are days where I’d rather stay inside and never see the light of day, but a daily dose of Vitamin D is just the ticket to put you on the path to overall happiness, wellness, and even success.
Traveling has always been a big part of my life, but it’s especially prevalent in 2016. So far this year, I have traveled to New York City, Indianapolis, Chicago, Virginia, Washington D.C., Alabama and will be heading to Florida in the coming weeks for some much needed beach time. I’ve been on too many planes to count and driven six hours in pouring rain all by myself to the little land of Montgomery. Through my travels, I have had opportunities I never thought would have come to me (such as driving six hours in the rain to the little land of Montgomery…) like seeing my first Broadway production and going to my first Second City show with one of my college best friends, speeding on the water in a boat next to a family of dolphins, and meeting locals and travelers alike who have left an impression on me to live in the moment more. Had I not traveled, I wouldn’t have these life-changing experiences under my belt. I’d only have that leftover Cheeto that I dropped onto my lap on my road trip home from work.
You still might be asking yourself how does one GOMO? What can I do to make this change? Is that Cheeto still there? For the record, it’s not. I’m not a slob.
A Comprehensive List on How to GOMO:
- Say yes to opportunities that excite you! I used to be a Serial No-er. I would say no to everything and spend my evenings after school wallowing because I wasn’t having fun. I did, however, have A’s in all of my classes thanks to all of the extra credit I did. In college, I wanted to grab life by the horns, so I changed and made the mistake of being a Serial Yes-er, and much to my surprise, that’s just as bad. I would say yes to every single opportunity that came my way, even if I had no interest in them whatsoever, and I found myself stretched too thin and unhappy. Find a balance. Say yes to what excites you and no to what doesn’t. Your time is valuable. Always remember that.
- Keep your nose out of your phone! I challenge each person reading this to spend a day phone free. You never realize how much of the world is passing you by as you sit there and refresh Twitter over and over again. As much as I love her, Bette Midler’s political Twitter rants can wait. Also, you’ll probably start to experience less neck pain since you won’t be hunched over a piece of technology for hours. Implementing this change has helped me Get Out More Often, because I’m actually seeing the world through my eyes instead of someone else’s on Instagram, and it makes me want to experience it myself! Plus, too much exposure to technology gives you headaches, a skewed perception of the people around you, and also probably cancer because what doesn’t.
- Take time for you. If you do stay home instead of going out on the weekend, then enjoy it. Pour yourself a glass of wine, soak in the bubble bath, paint your nails, or read a book. Enjoy the time with yourself. It will recharge your spirit, which will give you the energy you need for your family, friends, and your awesome life.
The Fear Of Missing Out is a beast and not the romantic one in that one Disney film. Instead of watching others experience their lives, I took control of mine and made my own experiences. I studied abroad in college, took a train to Memphis with my mom, and tasted a little too much tequila in Mexico. I saved my hard-earned pennies and bought experiences instead of things. The eight-year-old laptop I’m typing on that randomly decides to turn off and back on is an exact account of how little I spend on material items.
In a world that’s constantly setting a certain standard on how you should be living your life, let go of any chance to be overcome with FOMO and get out into the world and make it your own. If traveling far and wide isn’t your cup of tea, then you can experience life within your city. Check out Eventbrite’s Events Management page to scope out fun experiences that are close to home!
Wasting time suffering from FOMO is hindering your happiness. In the words of our beloved Sandy, who undoubtedly said no to FOMO and yes to GOMO in the closing scene of Grease, “You’d better shape up,” because operation GOMO begins now. Are you ready?