If you’re just tuning into my Changing Careers segment, make sure you check out the first post in the series on job hunting.
Back to business!
The last time we spoke, we talked about my quest for a job in the Northern Virginia/D.C. area. I mentioned how I applied to a mixture of roughly fourteen jobs, internships, and fellowships and how I was hoping for the best.
So what happens when a week or so has passed and you’ve only heard back from one potential source, which was an unpaid internship?
YOU FREAK OUT AND CRY.
Playing the waiting game is something I’m all too familiar with. As an actor, I play the game all of the time. I get an audition, go to the audition, and then I leave and try to push everything out of my mind, because I know that I could be waiting for awhile, or worse, forever.
Sometimes when people aren’t interested in you, they just never get back.
It’s like that term used in dating right now. Ghosting.
Sometimes, as actors, we’re ghosted by casting directors.
Sometimes, as job applicants, we’re ghosted by employers.
Regardless of how you look at it, being ghosted sucks.
Applying for jobs and taking the time to write cover letters and triple-check your resume makes you incredibly vulnerable. It also causes me to stress eat, but that’s beside the point. When you spend all of this time pitching yourself to a company and you don’t even get a response back, even if it’s a rejection, you can begin to doubt yourself and your worth.
I had a moment the other day where I told myself that I wasn’t good enough for anything and I actually believed it.
I don’t know about you, but that seems like a rock bottom moment and one that was completely unwarranted.
Here I am reaching and hoping for someone to bite, and I’ve only had one second interview. Don’t get me wrong, I am very thankful for the opportunity, and I believe I’d learn a lot if I was offered the job, but it’s still a bit disappointing.
Something to remember about the whole job hunt and waiting game is to not take anything personally. Employers aren’t reading your resume and laughing at you. They aren’t not hiring you because they think you’re lame. For whatever reason it may be, you just might not be right for that job, and that’s okay.
Instead of viewing being ghosted as having a door slammed in your face, think of it as leaving the door cracked open allowing just enough light to pour in and illuminate you for the right job, because the right job is out there.
As much as you want to find it, it wants to find you too.
And if we’ve learned anything from Benita Abraham, it’s that you can’t just let any job into your bed. You have to hold out for the right one.